What’s that you say? I couldn’t hear you… (#solTuesday)

“Being heard doesn’t necessarily mean shouting the loudest.”

This uncited quote lives on the wall beside my desk. I sometimes forget to check out that quarry of sticky note gems, and other times they stare relentlessly at me until I finally look up and soak them in. This particular quote jumped right out today and is fitting the bill in every possible way. 

It is important to structure your thoughts, questions, and messages so that they land poignantly. No need to shout when your words cut right to the heart of the matter, right?

  • It’s true when you’re a member of a class.
  • It’s true when you’re a colleague.
  • It’s true when you’re a family member.
  • It’s true when you’re interacting through emails or social media. 
  • It’s true when you’re a friend.

On the other side of things, it is also important to possess (or be, at least, willing to develop) the ability to provide pause and space for those quieter voices to actually be heard. This can be tough to do, especially if you feel that it’s absolutely your job to get your voice out in front of others’. If everyone is only waiting to jump into that teency space that can be stolen in between others’ voices, then the air becomes overfilled with harsh and loud insistence. If the focus can shift to sharing the air and allowing all voices to be heard and honored, then the air becomes filled with co-creation, dialogue, and perhaps even more compassion and empathy.

I’m curious about your experience. How do you help ensure that the loudest voices don’t always win?

3 thoughts on “What’s that you say? I couldn’t hear you… (#solTuesday)

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  1. Listening is a delicate skill. it is very challenging to be truly present and listen without letting own thoughts taking over and stories bursting out. Mindfulness helped me personally. In class we set intentions, keep a record of a discussion and reflect on what we notice about our participation in the discussion.


  2. I fix found this quote, and it really got me thinking about what you are talking about. “The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” If only the world listened more… me included!

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    1. “We listen to reply.” Gosh, how true is that?! Thank you for adding this quote – it’s really a perfect stepping stone of conversation. I think I’ll be considering those words for the rest of the evening! ❤️🙏🏼✨


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